Recently I was introduced to Martha by a friend and fellow speaker who is also dedicated to helping young people in college. Martha shared with me her desire to pay it forward and share her story of recovery from anorexia to inspire others to follow the same path she has and begin living again. I’m so pleased to share this article with you.
For a parent it can be difficult to understand how their young son or daughter developed anorexia or bulimia or became obese. Most parents don’t typically intend to knowingly cause issues for your kids. But in working with teens with eating disorders and their parents it’s interesting to see how many times parents aren’t tuned in to the messages that are being given to their child.
I remember the day it happened. The day it clicked in my head. Finally, something I had control over. While in the midst of my chaotic world back in 2008 during the full force of false child abuse allegations, DHS Child Protective Services investigations, two child custody disputes, dealing with my ex-wife, the public attacks of current wife’s ex-husband and his wife, the stress from work and graduate school and all of their tolls taken on my relationships, I was past the point of feeling controlled. I was controlled.
Last year Jennifer Love Hewitt was a hero. She stood up to the media when they published a picture of her bikini clad body and proclaimed she was “Jennifer Love Chewitt”. At a size two she was hardly fat.
I recently connected with Andrea Roe a fellow eating disorder survivor and author. In reading her book, You Are Not Alone (co-authored by my friend Shannon Cutts) this poem reached out to me. I’ve written recently about the effects on the family and how difficult it is for them to understand eating disorder behavior.