Ever experience a curve ball in life, followed by another, and another and an even bigger one? It can pull you off-track into victim mode, if you’re not consciously looking at what’s happening. Why would I say that? Because more people react to life and what happens to them vs. responding to life (a contemplated response).
Yet, as I’ve shared with you many times—you always have a choice! You don’t have to get stuck and wonder why life seems to be coming at you vs. moving in your favor.
Do you now anyone (it might even be you?) that turns to victim mode when things go wrong? It could be happening unconsciously, because that is the patter of how they (or you) have learned to deal with things in life. If you look closely, you’ll notice that when someone is constantly relaying the story of “woe is me,” and how life did me wrong again,” they are not looking for what they can do, or even how they may have contributed to creating this event, or series of events. And it’s exhausting to listen isn’t it?
So if it’s exhausting to listen to, can you imagine how exhausting it is mentally and physically when you live in, resort to and function from a place of victim mode? There is no room or energy left for inspiration, alternatives and solutions.
One the flip side, you have the option, the choice, to create your response, contemplate your next move, focus on a solution and consciously put out there what you want to learn, digest or achieve from this experience. Is it easy to do? Not always, it takes guts to find the positive in the midst of corporate politics, nasty people, bullies, relationship issues, car accidents, and financial lack. Yet, it can be done.
How does it feel to think about what you want to create as an outcome? Contrast that with how it feels to be consumed in negativity, bitch, complain, and carry on the woe is me story over and over and over? Does it feel heavy or light? How much energy do you have in each of these thought patterns?
Oddly enough, that is really all this is—a pattern of how you’ve dealt with irritating situations, people, and drama. You can change your pattern(s), no matter hold old you are, or how ingrained it is. It starts with your decision to make a different choice.
Is it time for you to make different choices, create new patterns? Let’s have a conversation and explore how you’d like to show up and be more creative in your approach to daily life.
When is the last time you had a conversation that was all about you, that made you feel really good, really heard and inspired for what you could do?
Email or call me today and let’s spend some time together focused exclusively on you!
