Words make a difference. The words you choose to think and say on a daily basis have a big impact on what happens in your world.
Some words are very disempowering. In addition to words, negative thoughts and people pull you down whether you consciously realize it or not.
Have you ever had to deal with office politics? Think about the energy you spend to attempt to second guess the person who is playing games, being a bully and controlling the situation. You go home exhausted just from all you have to do to stay one step ahead and on your toes all the time.
Negative people are like gate keepers that are holding the door shut to what you really want to have, do or be. The longer you hang out with people who constantly complain and engage you in the activity—the longer it will take you to passionately pursue and achieve your goal. You may even give up when there was no need to. All you need to do is change the air you breathe (in this case the people in your life) and the energy that surrounds you.
There are three words that I personally would like to strike from the English language:
- Have to
Say each word out loud. How do you feel when you say, “I’ll try,” or “I have to?”
Now say “I can’t.” How does it feel? Are you inspired to go the extra mile? I highly doubt it! These words unplug your desire and motivation.
For some people changing the words they use from “can’t” to “can” seems difficult. “But Lori, how can I say I can, when I know I can’t?”
What if, instead of saying “I can’t,” you say “I won’t.” Now you just changed the game, you made a choice. “I won’t,” means, “I choose not to.” Now that is empowering!